Hitting the Spiritual Wall Stunts Self-Awareness: Part 1
Hitting the spiritual wall can hit us right out of the blue and really fuck up our forward momentum with building our self-awareness.
Last night, while trying to center myself enough to connect with my guide, Linc, without success, I became extremely frustrated and my thoughts immediately began to spiral down the rabbit hole…
With all that I do to work toward growing and strengthening my spiritual connection—the meditation; the self-awareness; the trust and belief that I can get whatever I want just by believing it already exists for me; the faith in something I cannot see or touch; the hours of visualizing; the readings I do for others; the years of overcoming; and the sheer scope of effort I have put in to take all the tragedy in my life and create something good out of it—what the fuck gives, here? When does this get easier?
When does LIFE get easier?
All I have ever wanted to do is write and reach people with my words, so why, after nearly 40 years of having this goal, am I farther away from it now than I have ever been? Why am I working two jobs (actually, four if I count my one remaining social media client and the editing I’m doing on the side) and NONE of them are full-time writing? Why am I seemingly making choices that are steering me farther away from the one thing my soul has had a lady boner for since I was in 4th grade?
Maybe I’m not supposed to be something greater or different than I am right now. Maybe I’m exactly what I’m supposed to be and letting go of wanting to be more than I am is the key to happiness? What if the idea of manifesting and connecting with Source is all just mumbo-jumbo and all this work to connect with my highest self and my guides and others is just pure bullshit?
What if this moment, right now in my life, is simply as good as it gets and all I have to do to find some peace is to accept it and stop chasing something that keeps leading me in circles?
How would it feel to just work one job with good people —even though it’s not really feeding my creative soul—and then come home to Greg each day and just enjoy his company?
Does it matter that I’m not making a ton of money or that I no longer have the freedom I used to have working for myself? Do we really need more than what we already have? Is it worth this constant, seemingly exhaustive effort to always improve myself in some way and to always keep learning and growing?
Lately, when I try to trust that the universe will bring me what I want by steering me in the right direction and placing my feet on the right path, it feels like I end up walking farther away. It’s a constant battle between my heart and head to trust that what I’m asking for will somehow find its way to me. It’s a constant fight against complete exhaustion as I remind myself that all these extra directions I’m being pulled in are totally necessary to reach my end goal —being a full-time writer and editor.
But how long do I wait for my guides to help me reach the end game? How long can I stretch myself before I snap into pieces? I’m constantly beating myself up for not getting enough done—not writing enough, not editing photos for clients fast enough, not editing manuscripts for clients fast enough, not getting enough done at work; not working fast enough; not living up to the expectations of others.
And while battling all that, I’m losing the part of myself that shines the brightest—the dreamer with a head full of truth and fiction; the essence of who I have always been—the writer who moves people and feeds her soul with words.
But what can I do? Something’s gotta give. What if…
What if I just let all that pressure go?
What if I let go of all those expectations (self-imposed and otherwise) and I just set out to just accept simplicity?
Let go of the idea that I need to create a better life and just enjoy this one. Let go of the idea that I’m more than this and just be happy with who I am now. Let go of the pressure to grow spiritually and just roll with any connection that comes…or doesn’t. Let go of the constant effort to trust and believe. Let go of the idea that I need to be anything more than I already am.
What if I just let all that shit go and slowed everything down?
To relish each breath and heartbeat. To immerse myself in nature. To enjoy the feeling of Greg’s hand in mine. To laugh with him and drink him in with the sun on our faces. To let love flow, if I feel like it, and keep it to myself if I don’t.
But, what if I don't do that? What if I recognize hitting the spiritual wall is part of self-awareness growth?